Safety Plan

If you believe you are in an abusive relationship, you may want to make a safety plan to protect yourself and your children. The following are some suggestions.

  • Know how to get help quickly, by dialing 911
  • Identify the best ways to get out of your home safely and quickly
  • Keep your cell phone with you at all times or keep a phone in a room you can lock from the inside
  • Ask your neighbors to call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home
  • Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the police
  • Teach your children how to dial 911
  • Plan where you would go if you had to leave home
  • If the person abusing you has moved out, change the locks on your doors and keep doors and windows locked
  • Ask your neighbors to call the police if they see the abuser at your home
  • Use an answering machine and screen your calls
  • Keep a bag packed and ready to go that has important papers, phone numbers and medications you regularly need as well as clothing items. Keep it in a hidden place or give it to a friend or family member to keep for you.
  • Review your safety plan on a regular basis

 

SAFETY PLAN WITH YOUR CHILDREN

  • Teach your children how to dial 911
  • Make sure they know where to go for help and have a safe place to go (a room with a lock, a neighbor’s house)
  • Teach them to stay out of the middle of any fights you may have with the abuser
  • Devise a safety code to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the police
  • Reassure them that the violence is not their fault and that you want to be sure they are safe
  • Tell your child’s school about any court orders, be very clear about who is or isn’t allowed to pick up your child from school or a school program and make sure the school knows not to give out your address or phone number to anyone